My mom was a housewife with no income of her own. My father was the breadwinner, and he did the shopping for groceries, clothes—everything—since our house was a bit in the village and reaching the town was difficult. He made sure we had good quality dresses, education, and everything we needed. But I never knew I was missing one thing: femininity.

My mom didn’t have much money to spend, or even pocket money. A little that she earned by selling a few chicken eggs helped, but she had to be careful with every rupee. Sometimes that meant being frugal about her own needs, and even mine. I remember being asked to use cloth instead of pads, or wearing skirts she stitched herself instead of buying readymade ones. At times, when she did shop for us, it was for sanitary pads, bras, or other necessities—inevitable, but boring.

And yet, in the midst of these sacrifices, she found ways to sprinkle magic. I still remember the time she bought me a delicate necklace and matching earrings, or a dress she chose just for me. Unlike what my dad usually bought, these were feminine, thoughtful, and carefully chosen. They made me feel seen in a new way, and somehow gave me a glimpse into the woman my mom was beyond her frugality.

I also realized later that there’s a difference between what moms and dads choose for their daughters. My dad’s purchases were practical and neutral, which was perfect for everyday life. But when my mom picked something for me, it carried her perspective, her taste, and her sense of femininity. It made ordinary items feel special, and ordinary moments memorable.

Looking back, I realize motherhood and money are deeply intertwined. Sometimes it’s about sacrifice, sometimes about practicality, and sometimes about creating small gestures that leave a lasting impression. My mom taught me all of this: resilience, thoughtfulness, and the power of love expressed quietly, through the little things.

For moms reading this today:

• Small gestures matter – Even a ribbon, book, or carefully chosen accessory can create lifelong memories.
• Let moms shop for daughters – It doesn’t have to be big, but the choices moms make carry a unique emotional weight.
• Teach by example – Children absorb your values from what you do, not just what you say.
• Balance is key – Sacrifice when needed, but don’t forget to treat yourself or your child once in a while.

Even though I don’t naturally lean toward frugality myself, I carry my mom’s lessons with me: love, thoughtfulness, and the ability to create magic in small ways. In the end, it’s not money that shapes motherhood—it’s the heart behind it.